Adapted from a lecture by Rabbi Benzion Greiper
We’re continuing our simcha in marriage series, and today we will focus on the importance of bringing simcha (happiness) into the home.
Recently, a friend of mine has been hosting homeless people in his home. It seemed to him that there were many people in need in our community. He would find a home for a homeless person, and someone else would appear on his doorstep with nowhere to go.
This led him to a tremendous insight. We don’t recognize the strength of a support system. We have homes, family, heat and air conditioning, and we are grateful for them. But one of the most important factors in our lives is our strong support system.
One of the most important factors in our lives is our strong support system
The knowledge that we have a home, food, and friends to talk to creates a support system. We have a physical support system and an emotional and mental support system, and they provide us with tremendous stability and security. Hakadosh Baruch Hu made a system.
The fact that we have shuls all around us in many different nuscha’os, that we have groceries and butcher shops and doctors, gives us an internal security. Our community is our support system that provides us with security. This knowledge should make us happy.
We don’t think about these things, but this gives us a sense of balance, security and stability. We all have ups and downs, agmas nefesh (bother) and money problems, but the support system is there.
Our support system is deep inside of us, but we have to make sure we are aware of it. Every day, you should feel secure because you know you have friends, you know you have the Torah, you have rebbeim to ask questions.
Baruch Hashem, we have so many people in our communities with the chachma (wisdom) to give advice in so many different areas. The Torah gives us a manual of how to live. There is nothing more frustrating than having a computer and not knowing how to use it. When you open up the manual, ah, it works.
How do we know how to make our way through life? Life also comes with a manual; the Torah, of course. We have to realise that the ability to create simcha in marriage, simcha in life, is in us. Our parents gave it to us, and it’s a part of how we live every day. This is such an important part of our lives, and yet we take it for granted. It’s time to think about what we have and thank Hashem for it.
The internal support system that gives us strength is the first step towards a happy, stable marriage.