by Rabbi Avigdor Miller
When we examine the accomplishments of a father and mother, it’s amazing what happens. Not only is every child a nes (miracle), every child is a nes in his own way. Let’s say a man brings all of his sons to a rav. Five or six sons. It’s remarkable how different they are!
It’s a remarkable thing that from the same parents, the children are so entirely different. This one is fat and jolly, this one is skinny and serious. That’s a true thing I’m talking about. One of the little boys has a face like a businessman, like an adult already. Everybody’s different, from the same parents. It’s a nes.
Parents are planting various kinds of trees and plants in the world
The parents are planting various kinds of trees and plants in the world. The world can’t have just one kind of plant. It’s all roses, not enough. All lilacs, not enough. You need various roses and violets and lilies, everything else. All kinds of plants. You need apples and oranges and bananas and dates and figs, you need everything.
Therefore, when parents have children, they’re putting into the world people of different natures, and each nature is a pleasure to Hashem. Each one has its own sweetness. The sweetness of apricots is not like the sweetness of an apple. And the sweetness of an apple is not like the sweetness of an orange. And grapes are different and pears are different. Why did Hakadosh Baruch Hu make all kinds of fruits? He wants the world to have all kinds of enjoyments. Borei nefashos rabos v’chesronan. He gives everybody all kinds of pleasures.
And therefore it’s a pleasure to have skinny serious people, skinny serious Jews, very important to have them. Fat, jolly Jews, it’s a pleasure to have them. Businesslike Jews, pleasure to have them. Each one is a pleasure, no question about it. You hear people talking in learning. Watch them. Here is a group learning Torah. One man is shouting, asking a kasha, shouting a kasha. Another man says no, answers him. Another man is quietly listening. Each one has a different personality. It’s a pleasure to look at them. Each Jew adds.
Also the women. One daughter is like this, another daughter is like that, one daughter is quiet and obedient, another daughter a little freilich and mischievous and leibedige. Another daughter is stubborn. But you need them all. You’d be surprised. Each one uses her middos in a way that serves Hakadosh Baruch Hu. — Builders of the World (#E-18)